Always try and give yourself a reality check when browsing through the social media world.
It’s so easy to get lost, get jealous, and get down on yourself when you’re constantly comparing yourself to others.
Remember, it’s all a highlight reel.
99% of people have bad days, including all of our favourite celebrities and influencers. We just don’t see it.
🙌 It's me again, reminding you to let others see your awesomeness! 🙌
I took this photo this morning (yep, it's me! 🙋🏼♀️) because I wanted to capture the blue sky, but didn't want to be *obvious* about it because, well I was stood in line for the bus and using my phone! And I accidentally caught the reflection in my glasses which I thought was too uber cool not to show! 😎
And then I spent about 5 minutes looking through inspirational quotes - because y'know I want to uplift you all! And then...I just got a little queasy - I mean, the quotes were so...happy...and positive...and by positive, I mean totally disregarding the whole point of what it's like to be suffering! 😒
So I just decided to put something that came totally from me. And there you have it. Inspirational quote of the day from your's truly. 💁🏼♀️Because it chuffing well is hard to be vulnerable!! And so much easier to show the world a different picture of what's going on behind the scenes. Behind the sunglasses. Behind the eyes. Behind the mask. And sometimes just acknowledging that is enough.
We keep ourselves safe for a reason. But sometimes that reason just doesn't work anymore. And we might need help to re-adjust the ways we keep ourselves safe. Counselling can be one of the ways we do that. For more information on the Counselling I offer, click the links 🔗 in my profile ⬆️ to give me a call 📞, send me an email ✉️or visit my website💻.
Yes. To think of it, one of the most common reasons why there is widespread frustration, quarrels, fights, separation and mental health issues among everyone today is that each one of us is determined on changing others instead of focusing that change on ourselves.
Old are determined on changing young thinking, their lavish lifestyle, their careless attitude, young are keen on changing old perspective, traditions, culture.
Save that time and energy of changing others for yourself. Even if you are changing THAT doesn't mean you have be loud and clear about it. Even if people don't notice or understand, you don't have to stop and tell everyone you are changing. It doesn't work that way. PERIOD. Get out from that cycle.
Remember CHANGE is not a thing to be forced instead it should be inspired (from your actions, words, thinking).
Sometimes in order to grow you must free your mind from the toxins it carries. Whether that be toxic thoughts, toxic people, toxic environments, toxic habits. Anything that is not lifting you daily or inspiring you to be better - remove it from your life. Mental health can be conquered with every small step you take. It doesn't just happen overnight, but a dedicated soul can do wonders once they know how to get a happy head!
A father's emotional rollercoaster that comes with raising a baby girl.
For the FATHERS with DAUGHTERS... First emotion that came to me when the clinician said we were going to have a girl was FEAR.
Fear that maybe I wouldn't know what to do.
Fear I wouldn't relate.
Fear whether I'll be a good father.
When she came, it was JOYFUL and EMOTIONAL.
As days went into months, I experienced a level of LOVE so unique and primal. She influenced a new foreign state so unfamiliar to me... COMPLETE VULNERABILITY! She made me feel safe to be soft. It was nice. I'd never felt the compulsion to hug and kiss someone so much in my life. Then, what I didn't see coming was the over protective thoughts and foreign emotions that followed. Maybe you can relate... You imagine the worst happening to her by a perpetrator, and FOR THE FIRST TIME IN YOUR LIFE, YOU KNEW, THAT YOU WERE CAPABLE OF KILLING. The thought alone... JUST THE THOUGHT, triggers the autonomic nervous system to pump adrenaline into your blood to FIGHT and PROTECT. And so you realise, there are parts of yourself that is so unfamiliar and scary that it kicks in a sense of CAUTION in your actions because you know now, that your daughter holds the key to your vulnerable heart, and your darkest nightmare of something happening to her.
The fear UNCONSCIOUSLY makes me want to paste all my KNOWLEDGE onto her, all my CAUTION, all my RESTRICTIONS, all my IDEAS, all my HOPES, all my EXPERIENCE.
But this would be WRONG. Because she is NOT MY CHILD to own. In fatherhood, I have been given the blessing of learning to BE VULNERABLE, to know UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, to GIVE WITHOUT EXPECTATION, to learn about MY DEEPEST FEARS, to familiarise with my darkest PERSONA, and... to know TRUE MEANING. She doesn't deserve to be a VICTIM OF MY FEAR.
She has her own path... it is not mine to influence.
My job as a father is ONLY to LISTEN, ENCOURAGE, GUIDE, PROVIDE SECURITY PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY, EDUCATE WITH WISDOM, BE CALM, PLAY, AND LEARN from her purity and untainted awareness. You teach her only one thing.... and that is TO BE JOYFUL.
FATHERS, BE HUMBLE TO YOUR FEAR and BE THE TYPE OF MAN YOU WOULD WANT HER TO END UP WITH.
CHECK IN TUESDAYS
Noticed that you haven’t heard from a friend in a while. Drop them a message just to check in. Most of the time, they’re probably ok, but you never know what’s going on. .
Just a quick message can make a lot of difference when someone is struggling.
Be part of that! .
💖 SWIPE to zoom in and read a little message!
Having a small business isn’t easy. I struggle so much with moments of self doubt, wondering if I can ever make this work, whether I’ll ever be good enough to make this viable, talking myself down from giving up because I don’t believe in myself.
But at the same time, I am so passionate about every product that I make, because I know that if I need it, others do too. I’ve got to keep spreading that positivity for you guys! If just one person feels a little better because of me, that’s enough reason to keep pushing on 💖
Whatever you’re struggling through right now, you are not alone. I believe in you!!
What is something that you have learnt about yourself?
"That fighting against myself, seeing my BPD as a demon, seeing it as something that I 'suffer with' is what has caused me alot of problems. I thought I was broken, wrong and damaged. Because the world is scared of what it doesn't understand."
"But I have learnt, it's just a part of WHO I AM! I don't fight myself anymore, I am learning to work with myself and understand myself better and with that comes a sense of peace, clarity and serenity. We are not our diagnosis! We are just human beings trying to understand our own minds. Stop fighting to fit in and start loving every part of who you are.✌🏻"
- Hope Nash
It makes me incredibly proud to share this response because when I read it I could feel the power from the person who orchestrated these words. It also brought to my attention a lot of words that we use when talking about mental health like 'suffering' that imply a personal weakness or flaw instead of simply recognising these experiences as a reminder that we are human. The way that this lovely lady has tried to own every part of who she is is nothing but inspiring. Thank you so so much for sharing!
If YOU would also like to construct a response and be a part of this ongoing conversation then details on how to do this are linked in the bio. Please DM me your response, I look forward to learning more 😊