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  • tashaskillin - Tasha Skillin @tashaskillin 7 hours ago
  • I wanted to like being a new mom. Like so bad. I was sure I would LOVE parenting. Knowing how I felt in that last picture makes me cringe. ๐Ÿฅด

And although I loved my kids, and anyone around us would have sworn I loved the role, I felt weighed down by fear of not being enough and guilt 90% of the time. So much #momguilt.

Either I worked too much and missed too much time with them 
Or

I wasnโ€™t working enough to afford all the things I wanted them to have or experience.

I had chronic guilt because I was still following the rules of other peopleโ€™s lives.
I still believed that quantity was more important than quality.

I believed that I had to be at their service 24 hours a day to properly care for them. 
So when I was comparing myself to moms who spent all day with their kids, who loved playing pretend and couldnโ€™t wait to be room mom, I saw epic disappointment in my parenting.

And after 10 years of pouring into everyone I ever met, and then my kids, so I could feel like I was enough...I had nothing left for me. 
I didnโ€™t have the clarity to know what I actually wanted or needed. I didnโ€™t have anything concrete pulling me out of auto-pilot.

And when you donโ€™t realize you have choices, you keep doing what youโ€™ve been told to do. Especially when you think itโ€™s what you once decided.

And now, I LOVE being โ€œMamaโ€ to these two lovebugs.

Of course I still have moments of โ€œdonenessโ€ as I do with any relationship. I need a break from being ON as Mama.

But I have so much fun with them now that I got clear on what to do about that inner voice that whispers to me. I donโ€™t feel guilty about not spending all day with my kids, every day. And when Iโ€™m with them, not a moment is wasted - they get the whole me.

The only shift was in the set of rules that created my lifestyle. I chose to rebel with purpose, to unearth my original self, and parenting has never been this fun. I wanted to like being a new mom. Like so bad. I was sure I would LOVE parenting. Knowing how I felt in that last picture makes me cringe. ๐Ÿฅด And although I loved my kids, and anyone around us would have sworn I loved the role, I felt weighed down by fear of not being enough and guilt 90% of the time. So much #momguilt. Either I worked too much and missed too much time with them Or I wasnโ€™t working enough to afford all the things I wanted them to have or experience. I had chronic guilt because I was still following the rules of other peopleโ€™s lives. I still believed that quantity was more important than quality. I believed that I had to be at their service 24 hours a day to properly care for them. So when I was comparing myself to moms who spent all day with their kids, who loved playing pretend and couldnโ€™t wait to be room mom, I saw epic disappointment in my parenting. And after 10 years of pouring into everyone I ever met, and then my kids, so I could feel like I was enough...I had nothing left for me. I didnโ€™t have the clarity to know what I actually wanted or needed. I didnโ€™t have anything concrete pulling me out of auto-pilot. And when you donโ€™t realize you have choices, you keep doing what youโ€™ve been told to do. Especially when you think itโ€™s what you once decided. And now, I LOVE being โ€œMamaโ€ to these two lovebugs. Of course I still have moments of โ€œdonenessโ€ as I do with any relationship. I need a break from being ON as Mama. But I have so much fun with them now that I got clear on what to do about that inner voice that whispers to me. I donโ€™t feel guilty about not spending all day with my kids, every day. And when Iโ€™m with them, not a moment is wasted - they get the whole me. The only shift was in the set of rules that created my lifestyle. I chose to rebel with purpose, to unearth my original self, and parenting has never been this fun.
  • I wanted to like being a new mom. Like so bad. I was sure I would LOVE parenting. Knowing how I felt in that last picture makes me cringe. ๐Ÿฅด And although I loved my kids, and anyone around us would have sworn I loved the role, I felt weighed down by fear of not being enough and guilt 90% of the time. So much #momguilt. Either I worked too much and missed too much time with them Or I wasnโ€™t working enough to afford all the things I wanted them to have or experience. I had chronic guilt because I was still following the rules of other peopleโ€™s lives. I still believed that quantity was more important than quality. I believed that I had to be at their service 24 hours a day to properly care for them. So when I was comparing myself to moms who spent all day with their kids, who loved playing pretend and couldnโ€™t wait to be room mom, I saw epic disappointment in my parenting. And after 10 years of pouring into everyone I ever met, and then my kids, so I could feel like I was enough...I had nothing left for me. I didnโ€™t have the clarity to know what I actually wanted or needed. I didnโ€™t have anything concrete pulling me out of auto-pilot. And when you donโ€™t realize you have choices, you keep doing what youโ€™ve been told to do. Especially when you think itโ€™s what you once decided. And now, I LOVE being โ€œMamaโ€ to these two lovebugs. Of course I still have moments of โ€œdonenessโ€ as I do with any relationship. I need a break from being ON as Mama. But I have so much fun with them now that I got clear on what to do about that inner voice that whispers to me. I donโ€™t feel guilty about not spending all day with my kids, every day. And when Iโ€™m with them, not a moment is wasted - they get the whole me. The only shift was in the set of rules that created my lifestyle. I chose to rebel with purpose, to unearth my original self, and parenting has never been this fun.
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  • katedwinell - KATE โ€ข FOOD & BODY COACH @katedwinell 10 hours ago
  • DO YOU HOLD SO MUCH SHAME & GUILT FROM YOUR PAST DECISIONS?๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ญ .
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Girl, Iโ€™ve been there. I was NOTHING like the person I am today, literally. And I used to hold so much shame & guilt around decisions & who I was in the past. .
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And if thatโ€™s YOU, here are my top 3 tips to start releasing the guilt & the shame and to finally just live your life without being weighed down by the pastโœŒ๐Ÿผ .
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Tip #1- Know that we did the best we could with what we had. During that time, we didnโ€™t have the tools emotionally & mentally to navigate that situation or decision any differently then the way we did๐Ÿ–ค

Tip #2- We need to have compassion for our past selves, we get to love, honor them and have SOOO much compassion for what they went through & why they reacted the way they did because we did the best we could with what we hadโœจ

Tip #3- We can forgive & learn from that past decision. We have the choice to feel, heal & release that situation or we have the choice to pro long our suffering and continue to shame ourselves. So rather then just keep shaming ourselves, letโ€™s have compassion knowing we did the best we did with what we had & forgive and let go๐Ÿ–ค

When you do these three things, you are able to release some of the heaviness that you have been holding on from your past situations & decisionsโœจ

Let me know down below if this helps๐Ÿ–ค

Tag a friend that needs to hear thisโœจ DO YOU HOLD SO MUCH SHAME & GUILT FROM YOUR PAST DECISIONS?๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ญ . . Girl, Iโ€™ve been there. I was NOTHING like the person I am today, literally. And I used to hold so much shame & guilt around decisions & who I was in the past. . . And if thatโ€™s YOU, here are my top 3 tips to start releasing the guilt & the shame and to finally just live your life without being weighed down by the pastโœŒ๐Ÿผ . . Tip #1- Know that we did the best we could with what we had. During that time, we didnโ€™t have the tools emotionally & mentally to navigate that situation or decision any differently then the way we did๐Ÿ–ค Tip #2- We need to have compassion for our past selves, we get to love, honor them and have SOOO much compassion for what they went through & why they reacted the way they did because we did the best we could with what we hadโœจ Tip #3- We can forgive & learn from that past decision. We have the choice to feel, heal & release that situation or we have the choice to pro long our suffering and continue to shame ourselves. So rather then just keep shaming ourselves, letโ€™s have compassion knowing we did the best we did with what we had & forgive and let go๐Ÿ–ค When you do these three things, you are able to release some of the heaviness that you have been holding on from your past situations & decisionsโœจ Let me know down below if this helps๐Ÿ–ค Tag a friend that needs to hear thisโœจ
  • DO YOU HOLD SO MUCH SHAME & GUILT FROM YOUR PAST DECISIONS?๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ญ . . Girl, Iโ€™ve been there. I was NOTHING like the person I am today, literally. And I used to hold so much shame & guilt around decisions & who I was in the past. . . And if thatโ€™s YOU, here are my top 3 tips to start releasing the guilt & the shame and to finally just live your life without being weighed down by the pastโœŒ๐Ÿผ . . Tip #1- Know that we did the best we could with what we had. During that time, we didnโ€™t have the tools emotionally & mentally to navigate that situation or decision any differently then the way we did๐Ÿ–ค Tip #2- We need to have compassion for our past selves, we get to love, honor them and have SOOO much compassion for what they went through & why they reacted the way they did because we did the best we could with what we hadโœจ Tip #3- We can forgive & learn from that past decision. We have the choice to feel, heal & release that situation or we have the choice to pro long our suffering and continue to shame ourselves. So rather then just keep shaming ourselves, letโ€™s have compassion knowing we did the best we did with what we had & forgive and let go๐Ÿ–ค When you do these three things, you are able to release some of the heaviness that you have been holding on from your past situations & decisionsโœจ Let me know down below if this helps๐Ÿ–ค Tag a friend that needs to hear thisโœจ
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